“I don’t talk to you!” – if you hear these words from a partner too often, if then a multi -day silence should be made and as a result you have to make excuses, beg, ask for forgiveness, and for what – you yourself do not know, perhaps it is time to think about it, and if you are a loved one, not manipulates youHuman.
Ivan understood that he was guilty of something, but did not know what. For the past few days, the wife stubbornly refused to talk to him. It was obvious that she was offended by something. The problem was that she literally criticized him for some mistakes and misconduct, so he had
no idea what provoked a boycott on her part.
Recently, she had a corporate party at work, maybe he drank too much there and said some kind of stupidity? Or it was angry with a mountain? Or maybe he began to spend too much on products, trying to adhere to a healthy diet? The other day, he sent a friend a sarcastic message that his wife was again unhappy with him, maybe she read him?
Usually Ivan in such situations confessed to all conceivable and inconceivable sins, apologized and begged her to start talking with him again. Her silence was unbearable to him. She, in turn, reluctantly accepted his apology, strictly reported him and gradually resumed communication. Unfortunately, this whole process was constantly repeated about every two weeks.
But this time he decided that he was enough. He was tired of being treated as a child. He began to understand that with the help of boycotts, his wife controls his behavior and forces himself to take over excess responsibility. At the beginning of the relationship, he considered her non -reward a sign of sophistication, now he clearly saw that this was just a manipulation.
Boycot in a relationship is a form of psychological violence. Its most common forms.
1. Ignoring. Ignoring you, the partner demonstrates neglect. He clearly shows that he does not value you and tries to subordinate you to his will. For example, he does not seem to notice you, as if you are not, pretending that he does not hear your words, “forgets” about joint plans, looks at you condescendingly.
2. Departure from the conversation. Sometimes a partner does not ignore you completely, but closes, carefully avoiding communication. For example, he gives monosyllabic answers to all your questions, does not look into your eyes, gets off with general comments when you ask about something specific, mutters under your breath or leaves the answer, sharply changing the topic. Thus, he deprives the conversation of all meaning and again shows his neglect.
3. Sabotage. Such a partner is a sentence tries to deprive you of self -confidence. He does not recognize your achievements, does not allow you to fulfill your duties on your own, suddenly changes your requirements, secretly prevents you from achieving success. This is usually done secretly and at first you do not even understand what is happening.
4. Rejection of physical proximity. Rejecting the manifestations of affection and love on your part, he, in fact, rejects you. Often this happens without words: the partner shuts off your touch or kisses, avoids any physical proximity. He can refuse sex, say that sexuality is not important to him.
5. Isolation from loved ones. He is trying to limit your social life. For example, it forbids to communicate with your family who could protect you from him, justifying this by the fact that they are trying to destroy relationships, “they hate me”, “in fact they don’t give a damn”. Thus, the boycott extends not only to you, but also to your relatives who do not suspect anything.
6. Damage of reputation. In this way, the partner is trying to isolate you from a whole group of people: friends, colleagues, friends in sections and groups. He seeks to declare a boycott to you, spreading false rumors that defeat your reputation.
For example, if you are a believing person and constantly visit the same temple, a partner can let a rumor that you have lost faith or behave inappropriately. You have to make excuses, and this is always difficult and unpleasant.
When Ivan understood what ways of manipulation and psychological violence his wife uses, he finally decided to leave her.
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